Good relationships take a lot of work, whether they are with a
spouse, a significant other, a child, or a friend. When one of the
people involved has ADHD, there can be additional challenges.
Impulsiveness and forgetfulness can be major hindrances to building
trusting relationships. And if you are like most people with
ADHD, you have received many negative messages about your
behavior, and your sense of self-worth may have been adversely
If you are the non-ADHD partner in a relationship, it is challenging to
define your expectations and roles in a manner that is supportive but
not disabling for your partner who has ADHD. Many people have been
down this path and learned valuable lessons on coping with ADHD within a
relationship. The articles and information below should
help you find answers.
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Interacting with Others: Tips for Adults with
ADHD - To get along well with others, people must be able to
pay attention, to be responsible, and to control their impulses.
Social Skills in Adults with ADHD - Individuals
with ADHD often struggle in social situations.
ADHD in Adult Relationships - Author Gina Pera
answers questions on the impact of ADHD in a relationship.
Lifestyle and Related Issues in Adult ADHD - Adults with ADHD
typically face major lifestyle impairments as the result of hyperactive, impulsive,
and inattentive symptoms. Even with cognitive and medical treatment,
many struggle on a daily basis due to poor organization, inconsistent
follow through, poor financial management, difficulty balancing work and
home responsibilities, and quality of relationships.
To Tell or Not to Tell - I’m often asked by
clients and audience members at presentations about whether someone should tell
family, friends, coworkers, or bosses about having ADHD.
The Social-Emotional Landscape - Social
skills are a perennial issue for families and adults affected by the
Out with the Old, In With the... Wait, Do You Really
Need New Clutter? - Read Gina Pera's blog dealing with
organizational challenges and spouses' perceptions of the problems.
Antisocial and Criminal behaviors in Adults with
ADHD - There is a strong
scientific consensus that having AD/HD in childhood places the
individual at significantly greater risk for a host of problems in
Stay Connected with Your ADHD Partner - When a
spouse is constantly distracted or can't slow down enough to pay
attention to his or her partner's needs, it often leads to a
The "Gifts of ADHD": Transforming Humiliation into
Humility - A big obstacle faced by couples dealing with ADHD is
Is It "Miscommunications" - or ADHD? - Central
auditory processing disorder (CAPD) can accompany ADHD and result
in problems with processing oral communications.
Marriage and Partnerships - Conflict and
discord are common in marriages and partnerships involving an individual
with undiagnosed ADHD.
a "Good News" Diagnosis Means "Bad News" for the Relationship -
Diagnosis and treatment of ADHD in one partner, can create brand new
dynamics in a relationship. It can take hard work to sort out the
Dealing with the Impact of ADHD on Marriage -
While any marriage has its challenging moments, when one or both spouses
have ADHD, those times only seem to multiply.
How to Succeed in Marriage with ADHD - How can a
couple improve their marriage when ADHD is a factor?
Snapshots of an ADHD Marriage - Diagnosis and
treatment of ADHD can make all the difference in the quality of your
Partners in Life, Partners in ADHD Awareness -
Ensuring a spouse is diagnosed and receives effective treatment is a
ADHD and Sex: No Shame, No Blame - The symptoms
of ADHD can intrude into all areas of your life, including romance and
To Sleep, Perchance to Turn Off That *&$@#
Computer - Do you fight going to sleep at night? Many
people with ADHD do.
Close Relationships, Intimacy and ADHD - ADHD
can interfere with developing a close relationship with your significant